Overcoming Overwhelm

I’m in such a great mood– In Arms Coaching has a new tag line! Let me know what you think: “Changing the world…one happy woman at a time!”

I love it. It makes me so happy to have that one sentence contain pretty much my entire mission statement for In Arms Coaching.

It makes me SO happy, I want to give you something cool for FREE. And here it is.

This is a call that I recorded a few months ago that I would like to share with you.  I hope that you find it useful and inspiring — it’s at the CORE of a lot of the work that we do in the private programs for women that I offer. Please comment below and let me know how it resonates with you. And remember: Bella Nysa reminds us that Sharing is Caring!!!

Giving it up, any-which-way you look at it, is about offering our selves up to others in some sort of service.

And to offer ourselves up in ways that nurture and honor both ourselves and the people we’re in service to, we need to do the down and sometimes dirty work of connecting inwards and aligning ourselves with h our authentic voice, our inner wisdom and our center.

I’ll get really honest with you here — 5 years ago I felt like I had no friends. Or I had people in my life that didn’t feel like friends — that made me feel hurt, put out, misunderstood, even angry with myself for becoming someone else around them because it didn’t feel safe to be myself. And part of that (even though it’s hard to write to you about) was because I didn’t feel like who I was really deserved loving, supportive friends. I felt like I had to take what I could. And I did. And the relationships made me wither — sometimes literally.

Taking what I felt I could get landed me in a horribly wrong and dysfunctional marriage, in a house I hated, with friends who were so bent on self-destruction that they couldn’t be there for me.
And in this place of disconnect, of sadness, of inauthenticity I wasn’t serving any of the people in my life, either — the fault wasn’t (by a long shot) all theirs.

Oh, and this was fun — all the stress and sadness also was making me sick all the time. With a 12-month old baby whom I was alone with most of the time. In a house I hated. And completely broke.

What I want to share with you was that even though I sobbed for a quick life change, even though I prayed and begged the powers that be for my situation to change….it didn’t until I DID. For real. I had to risk everything (and here’s what I lost: my husband, my house, my money, and my health, to start with) to come back to center and start over. I had to tear down the structure of EVERYTHING that was rotten and molding (but that I was clutching onto because I was afraid of being without it) in order to rebuild from the foundation up.

And guess what? When I did the down-and-dirty (and tearful, and heartbreaking, and financially staggering, and terrifying) work of going back to step one and rebuilding from my authentic self (after I even figured out who that was anymore)….my structure DAZZLED the eye.

Connecting to my authentic self and really building my life from my heart-center created amazing friends who love and support me (and whom I commit to showing up for), work I LOVE that pays the bills before they’re due (WHAT?!?!?), a man I can’t stop touching who makes me laugh out loud in the middle of the night, a kid who knows mama can put aside work for an hour to play a game with her on the regular…and more.

How do your relationships reflect who you are in this place in your life?

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My Heart-Centered Call To Action for YOU:

Women and boundary work go together like group trips to the bathroom.

Are you ready to connect deeply enough with yourself and receive support, tools and structure for looking at how your personal and professional relationship have held you back in your life?

Are you tired of feeling like you can’t be, or aren’t really yourself in relationships?

Do you need to move into a place where you have relationships in your life that nurture and support you?

I’m opening space for 3 new private clients this month. To see if one of these spaces is for you I have 5 complimentary call slots open — and two of them filled as soon as I announced it.

Is one of the remaining 3 yours? Seize it today by calling me at (917) 971-5347

Find out more about the complimentary call by visiting: Your Free Call — go ahead- seize it!!

And my 6 year old, Bella Nysa, wants to remind us: Sharing IS Caring! So send this to other women in your life so they can create relationships that serve them, too.

Much love, women.
xo Britt

by Patty Manning Lennon

I have a really inspirational story about my life.  I tell it often in presentations to groups of women.

The summary of that story goes something like this:

From the outside I looked like I “had it all” but inside I was dying.  The day I admitted the truth about my life – the truth that the “all” I had wasn’t necessarily the one I wanted – my life changed in an incredible way.

I abandoned my post as a Vice President is a huge bank and started my own business.

I lost 25 pounds.

I took up kickboxing, rock climbing and I resuscitated my social life.

I fell more in love with my husband and children.

And on and on the list goes of the glories that came from finally being honest about who I was and what I wanted.   The story is 100% true.  I’m thrilled to share it.  I’m overwhelmingly grateful to have taken this journey.

But I have been noticing something lately.

I’m not sure we need inspiration as much as we need honesty.

The story I tell leaves out most of the dark moments.  Someone recently commented to me how great it must have been to stop worrying what other people thought of me and embrace life without that constraint.

Huh?

Where’d she hear that?

That is definitely not the way it went down.  I spent many sleepless nights worrying about what others would think of me.    I cried huge pitiful tears of self-loathing and existed in angst most of the time.  I wondered over and over again what was wrong with me.

Although inspirational stories are peppered with pithy references to the darkness before the dawn they rarely describe in detail the snot-filled moments that come with life transformation.

So what’s my point?

Well I guess I just want you to know that if you are going through your own particularly snot-filled, ice cream binging, self-loathing period of time you are not alone.  You are on the journey that will lead you to your own inspirational story.

And by the way while I was going through that “dark” period I never thought it would end.  I was in incredible pain most of the time and I wasn’t sure I was headed in the right direction.

So if you are feeling any of this I want you to know it will end.  The pain will transform to joy and you are headed in the right direction.    And all of this will one day be a pithy reference to your period of darkness in your own inspirational story we’re just waiting to hear!

Patty Lennon is a life and business coach, mom advocate and CEO and Founder of Mom Gets A Life at:http://www.momgetsalife.com. Her mission is to help every mom fall as deeply in love with her life as she is with her kids.  She also writes a blog for female entrepreneurs at www.gettingintheflow.com.