As I've mentioned before, when I moved to Maine 4 years ago (this month! MAINE-AVERSARY!), I had to reinvent my professional and personal community from SCRATCH. AS I built a new business (or, re-framed my existing one). WHILE having 100% responsibility (physically, emotionally, financially) for a 7 year old. OH- and I was also home-schooling her at that point. And had just gone through a heart-wrenching break-up. It was a tough time, and it was made tougher by not having my old tribe of women from NYC behind me. It felt pretty clear that I needed to be assembling a similar … [Read more...] about Build Community Like A Rockstar (aka: effortlessly)
When I first moved to Maine, I knew NO ONE in the small business world: no entrepreneurs, no like-minded people who's values matched mine. I had left NYC where I had a professional community, colleagues, ideal client opportunities...and moved somewhere where I had to start all over again. And to kick it all off, I had recently re-branded and re-focused my biz from life coaching for women to business coaching. I was speaking to a whole different community, and the first thing that happened was that my list died as my old ideal client left and my new ideal client hadn't yet found … [Read more...] about Ever Feel Like You’re Hiding?
How to effectively take time off from your business without all the things falling on your head. One of the main fears that business owners and entrepreneurs have when you take time to check out is that the ALL the balls are going to drop if you step away from your biz. We all know that an object in motion STAYS in motion (even if you didn't even HAVE physics - I actually didn't. Or maybe I just don't remember it. Those were hazy years. But anyway...) and you've all experienced the flip side- once a ball drops, it's harder to get it BACK in the air than to keep it in the air to begin … [Read more...] about An Object in Motion STAYS in Motion
It is endlessly amusing to me how much making my business work is like making my relationship work. I've written articles comparing my biz to a hot date- and the reverse is absolutely true-there have been mornings I've woken up and just want to avoid even talking to it. Growing up without healthy examples of adult relationships, it's been both challenging and frustrating for me to learn how to be a healthy part of a thriving relationship- and it's fascinating to see how SIMILAR my relationship with my business feels- from the "I want to wear your sweatshirt everywhere so people know I'm … [Read more...] about Stop Rushing Forward – A Business/Relationship Analogy
You own your own business. It’s heart-centered work. You NEED it to succeed- your family depends on it. Your dreams and daily quality of life depend on it. The people whom you serve need it to succeed! But instead of feeling like you’re moving steadily forward, with a clear path, where actions build on each other and are consistent, you’re feeling like a hamster on a wheel-- your feet move ALL day, but at the end of the day, there you are, stepping off the wheel, exhausted and feeling like you’re in the SAME PLACE you were that morning (albeit with a few more household tasks … [Read more...] about Know What’s MOST Important to Be Doing In Your Biz (to get ahead and FEEL successful)
Quite honestly, your biz kicks butt. You’re an awesome parent/partner/friend, but you NEED to pull yourself out of the hustle and stop operating in fire-putting-out-mode (that’s the scientific name for it) ALL THE TIME. Because seriously- money is pretty awesome to have. But I know first-hand that if your life feels out of control, if you’re in chicken-with-no-head mode, if you’re yelling at your dog/kid (and calling them the wrong name-- sometimes in a pinch I just refer to my dogs by color, because in heated moments I blank on their names: “White Dog! LEAVE THE BUTTER … [Read more...] about You’re Not A Fire-Fighter (so stop feeling controlled by fire-putting-out in your biz)!