A past client reached out to me for advice. She badly wanted a specific piece of training, saw a FB ad for a coach who was specifically doing that training, and got on the phone with the coach to explore the program. She was then bullied, pressured, and strong-armed to make the decision to spend WAY more than she was comfortable with when she had doubts about the connection between her and the coach. The coach then tried to sell her into a lower-priced program, but the switch felt misaligned and my old client felt like she was just being sold to, and that this wasn't someone who was … [Read more...] about Feeling confused, sold to and manipulated? Watch for these red flags…
You own your own business. It’s heart-centered work. You NEED it to succeed- your family depends on it. Your dreams and daily quality of life depend on it. The people whom you serve need it to succeed! But instead of feeling like you’re moving steadily forward, with a clear path, where actions build on each other and are consistent, you’re feeling like a hamster on a wheel-- your feet move ALL day, but at the end of the day, there you are, stepping off the wheel, exhausted and feeling like you’re in the SAME PLACE you were that morning (albeit with a few more household tasks … [Read more...] about Know What’s MOST Important to Be Doing In Your Biz (to get ahead and FEEL successful)
Quite honestly, your biz kicks butt. You’re an awesome parent/partner/friend, but you NEED to pull yourself out of the hustle and stop operating in fire-putting-out-mode (that’s the scientific name for it) ALL THE TIME. Because seriously- money is pretty awesome to have. But I know first-hand that if your life feels out of control, if you’re in chicken-with-no-head mode, if you’re yelling at your dog/kid (and calling them the wrong name-- sometimes in a pinch I just refer to my dogs by color, because in heated moments I blank on their names: “White Dog! LEAVE THE BUTTER … [Read more...] about You’re Not A Fire-Fighter (so stop feeling controlled by fire-putting-out in your biz)!
Today I wanted to give you a real life example of how I make my time work for me -- I posted this in Tribe and they found it really helpful, so I'd like to share it with you. And it starts with a little news that's KINDA worthy of a drum-roll, so if you please... In the middle of being a parent and step-parent to two tween girls, in the middle of running a 6 figure business and planning launches, up-leveling, AND training team members to take on more responsibility, in the middle of being an active community member, a half-way decent friend, having time for social life, self-care, and … [Read more...] about How I Made Time To Start A Non-Profit (with all the other Sh%! I Do :-))
Be an old college friend of mine, with whom I had an awkward, complicated, and upsetting falling out with over a boy (and a girl- hey- I said it was complicated...). Sever your friendship with me after taking his side. Reach out to me via a templated email with a general greeting (15 years later) pretend to be friendly and say something vague like, "Hey! Hope all is well! Hope your business is great!" And then ask me if I want to refer people to your new program. COME ON, PEEPS. We know better by now, right??? Mass-marketing, general emails that pretend to be personal? Adding … [Read more...] about Here’s how NOT to market your work
You get SUPER excited. You want to see them all the time. You draw your names together in little hearts. You work their name into conversations until your friends roll their eyes. You wear their shirt just to smell them. You check your phone for texts and rearrange your schedule so you can see them more. SO MUCH energy and attention go into this bright, shiny, new, exciting thing. And if it lasts? The fling becomes a relationship. You begin to trust them, to consider building something more permanent- an emotional structure and stability to rest in when the world makes you weary. You … [Read more...] about How Your Biz Is Like Hooking Up With A Hottie