You wear their shirt just to smell them. You check your phone for texts and rearrange your schedule so you can see them more. SO MUCH energy and attention go into this bright, shiny, new, exciting thing.
And if it lasts?
The fling becomes a relationship. You begin to trust them, to consider building something more permanent- an emotional structure and stability to rest in when the world makes you weary. You plan a future. You begin to rely on them, and they on you. You begin to take for granted that you’ll fall asleep with the warmth of their skin against yours. And it feels good.
You plant roots together. The shininess wears off. They annoy you. They poke you when you’re mad (which you HATE) or try and tickle you out of a bad mood (which you hate MORE). Your disagreements make you cry, and sometimes they do things that make you LIVID and throw your hands up in defeat.
But you wake up, and it’s another day.
And you’ve committed to this person.
And your job is to ask (every FRIGGING day– whether they’ve made you radiate joy or fury) “How can I show up in this relationship today? How can I be present for this person? How can I be present for ME– SO that I can be present for this person? What does this relationship ask of me today?”
Your biz IS a partner of yours. It’s a relationship with a living, breathing entity that has needs. A being that can bring you to the highest high and the lowest low– but at the end of the day, you HAVE to be committed to falling asleep next to it, waking up the next day, and starting over with the SAME questions that you need to answer in your human partnership (s).
Agree? Disagree? How is your biz like a relationship?
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