When Your Biz Sucks (and the tool I use to not get stabby)
And there’s a time to throw a fit in the Apple store, burst into tears in the parking lot, go home and eat potato chips in bed and refuse to do anything but watch old L Word episodes. It’s all good.”It got a LOT of attention.As much as I know it’s helpful for my clients to hear my success stories, the things I did that caused MAJOR WINS, the tips and tools and strategies for moving my biz forward…
They LOVE stories about when I majorly F-ed up.
And I get it, because I love stories about when MY mentors F-ed up.
Stories like this make you feel like:
- you’re not alone.
- when you mess up, it’s not the end of the world.
- no matter what happens in your biz, there’s an option for learning and recovery, and starting anew.
- you’re not doing as badly as you think you are– bad days don’t = a suck-ass biz.
As someone who suffered from depression and resulting drug issues in her teens and 20’s, things going wrong can be scary because I remember a time when a rabbit hole of black despair loomed in front of me all the time. Once I fell into it it was SO hard to get back up, and it was dark, bottomless, and frightening.
In the hole I lost control of my mind, my thoughts and feelings, and it had a terrifying result for me physically.
I fought back with self-abuse, drug use, life-threatening antics and behaviors.
Many years later, I am in FULL control of my mind, my thoughts, and my feelings. I no longer hurt myself- I’m actually pretty fucking bad-ass in defending what I need and the care of my body, heart, and mind.
But having a bad day can still feel a little frightening. And a day like the other one where EVERYTHING goes wrong, I throw my phone, hit my computer, am mean to a tattooed, edgy-looking Apple employee and then burst into tears in a parking lot just FEEL SO LOW.
And what gets triggered is the fear of a looming rabbit hole that it’s hard to climb out of– where everything goes dark and I’m scared I’m going to hurt myself or someone else. (That’s SUCH an old fear- it has nothing to do with who I am today. But fears can be old and scary that way.)
But I’m a biz owner. Shit goes wrong. Launches flop. Newsletters don’t get great open rates. Witty FB posts barely get clicked. Prospects turn out to be misaligned.
And I don’t EVER have to go down the rabbit hole again.
Because the tool that I have now is brighter, more powerful, 100% stronger than the pull of the hole.
I have the ability to CHOOSE what I believe about my biz.
To see ALL the ways it’s WORKING.
To celebrate the fact that last year (despite thinking I had TOTALLY fucked up my enrollment plan) I STILL hit 6 figures (and THEN SOME)– my goal for my WHOLE life so far.
I’m SO good at asking for support– and then putting systems in place that keep it coming when I need it.
I know how to use energy management tools to choose my thoughts and create new, more powerful ones (more on THAT, soon 🙂 I got something BIG up the pipeline for you around that topic.)
And, I have people who love me who say wise shit to me when I tell them I behaved badly and cried in public (this is a text from my ex-partner :-)):
“Ha! Let’s call the day a dud. We’ll have a do-over tomorrow. None of this will count towards your happiness.”
Is any of this helpful for you? Hit me up at britt[at]inarmscaoching.com to let me know, or go to my Facebook page to let me know what you think.
With a (free) proven tool to grow a successful business.